I was chatting with a male friend the other day and we got onto the topic of orgasm. I said that one of the best ways to improve (heterosexual) sex for everyone would be if we all had a chance to spend a day as the opposite gender; to have sex from the 'opposite' perspective and see what it feels like.
I'm curious as to what a male orgasm actually feels like and he was similarly curious about female orgasm (I heard someone describe male orgasm as a single blast from a trumpet and female orgasm as a horn solo but that doesn't really give a huge amount to go on.)
We agreed to try to write down what it feels like. This is my attempt (As with all the sex stuff on Cliterati, link is for adults only).
It's possibly one of the hardest things I've ever written and I'm still not sure whether I've got it. It's hard to describe something when you're unsure of the frame of reference - after all, feeling isn't necessarily a universal thing - imagine describing pain to someone who's got nerve damage and can't feel it or being cold to someone who's only every lived in a warm country.
And even when you do have similar frames of reference, who's to say orgasm is the same for everyone? I certainly wouldn't assume it was, regardless of gender.
Posted by emilyd at February 16, 2003 04:01 PM